Sustaining Happiness from Within
Last year, I enrolled in a happiness course (yes, you read that right) called the Science of Well Being, led by Dr. Laurie Santos, the renowned professor from Yale. The lessons, though seemingly simple, left a lasting impact on me. I've wholeheartedly integrated them into my daily routine, and I can proudly say that I've reached a level of contentment I hadn't experienced before – my happiness meter now stays remarkably steady.
The course kickstarts by revealing that our happiness tends to maintain a relatively constant level. Sure, external factors like a new car, a salary bump, or a lavish house might temporarily spike our happiness meter. However, the euphoria is short-lived as our brains swiftly adapt, considering these new aspects as the new normal and eagerly seeking the next dopamine hit. Similarly, negative news, like failing a class, may impact us temporarily but we still return to our normal happiness level.
The truth is true happiness isn't found in material possessions. It's an inside job that requires rewiring our brain's default programming.
The initial lessons revolved around the art of savoring special moments. Taking a step back to reflect and relish an experience intensifies and prolongs the positive emotions associated with activities we love. If you’re like me and you love decadent desserts, choose your favorite and eat it slowly, appreciating each mouthful. To capture and prolong your appreciation, take a picture. Whether it's indulging in a favorite dessert or appreciating a scenic sunset, staying present in the moment enhances the experience. This act of savoring will work with anything you enjoy doing. You could take a hot bath, read your favorite book, walk outside, exercise, cook, or listen to music. Choose any activity that you really enjoy and savor it. I love to savor the sunrises and sunsets viewed from within my community. I’ve captured some really magical moments.
The next lesson encourages us to perform acts of kindness beyond our usual behaviors. Whether it's tipping generously, complimenting strangers, or allowing someone with a single item to cut in line, research indicates that such gestures contribute to our overall happiness. Give it a try and see how it makes you feel.
Social connection plays a vital role in our happiness meter too. Genuine interactions and rich social connections create a sense of belonging. Make a conscious effort to connect, putting away the smart phones and engaging in meaningful conversations. Try sparking a conversation with a stranger on your commute. Trust me, the impact is uplifting and resonates throughout the day.
Regular exercise isn't just a physical health booster; it's a natural mood enhancer. Working out releases endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, collectively known as the "happy hormones." Personally, I've made exercise a priority, dedicating six days a week to a mix of weight training, cardio, high-intensity workouts, and yoga. On the days that I miss a physical workout, I feel more sluggish, and I start to notice aches in unlikely places.
Meditation, another favorite of mine, involves intentional moments of silence to find inner peace amidst life's distractions. Focusing on breath, a thought, or a chant fosters positivity and enhances concentration, promoting a sense of connectedness. You’ll soon find that you’re much less annoyed when things don’t go your way. You’ll be able to concentrate for longer periods. And you may even have a feeling of more connectedness to life and humanity.
Who hasn’t heard the phrase, “Laughter is the best medicine?” Instead of succumbing to negative self-talk, laugh at yourself, share a laugh with a friend, or indulge in a comedy or funny video. Laughter has the incredible ability to alleviate stress and elevate our mood.
Practicing gratitude by starting the day with appreciation sets a positive tone for your day. Look around and acknowledge the engineering marvels (hello skyscrapers), blue skies, or cherished relationships. There's always something in or out of sight to be grateful for.
Finally, journaling serves as a personal outlet for processing experiences. Whether relishing sweet memories or releasing negative emotions, putting pen to paper can be incredibly therapeutic.
